Thursday, 19 November 2015

Dummy Dilemma

Back when I was first pregnant blogging wasn't really a popular thing & Twitter was in its infancy.  However I've always loved writing a drafted mini posts as an outlet which never saw the light of day as I had no forum.  I've decided to dust some of them off and share.
These posts are from my early motherhood days and I hope they might help, humour or connect with some mums out there.

Dummy Dilemma
Originally from September 2007
I recently came across an article regarding the use of dummies in babies and found that some people are extremely loathing of them and very judgemental.  The article was supposed to give an opinion for and against the use of dummies but I didn’t find either opinion particularly supportive of dummies and the views given seemed extremely harsh.  The mum supporting there use seemed embarrassed that she had to resort to a dummy to soothe her child and the mum against was very scathing of mothers using a dummy suggesting they were just lazy and couldn’t be bothered to find out the cause of their baby crying.

When I was pregnant it wasn’t something I’d actually considered but in hospital a member of staff suggested using a dummy as they said my daughter was a very ‘sucky’ baby and it would help soothe her.  I’d been in labour for 2 ½ days and had been told in the first 48 hours most babies tend to sleep a lot but Lily-Anna wasn’t sleepy at all and I was exhausted and really didn’t care if she used a dummy or not.  It worked wonders it helped her sleep and for longer periods of time.

My daughter is now 7 ½ months old and uses her dummy less and less.  In the day she uses it mainly when she is tired, unwell or unsettled by new people or environments.  I think if it helps soothe her it is definitely not a bad thing.  The against mother in the article suggested all parents just plug their children in at the first whimper and this is not true at all.  Both mothers suggested dummies are filthy horrible plugs but I don’t think either mother had looked at some of the benefits.

1. Dummies can help soothe babies as they have a natural sucking reflex

2. Can give a feeling of security in new places
3.     A baby using a dummy is less likely to suck their thumb, which is actually worse for their teeth and obviously cannot be removed!!
4.     A dummy can help babies with colic
5.     Can help premature babies go from being tube feed to bottle feed easier and therefore reduce the time they need to spend in hospital
6.     Research shows a baby who had a dummy is less likely to smoke as an adult
7.     And most importantly it has been proven to reduce cot deaths.  This is thought to be most likely as it helps keep airways open and prevents the mouth and nose being covered.

I know there are also disadvantages with regards to teeth, speech and dirt but these are widely publicised and are only a problem if babies/children use dummies for prolonged periods of time.  Experts even disagree on the damage to teeth with some experts saying that until the adult teeth develop no damage is caused at all and all experts say its better to suck a dummy than thumb.  It’s also been documented that the dirt attracted to the dummies from falling on the floor can help a baby’s immune system.  Obviously its not advisable to smear dirt, dust etc all over your babies dummy but sometimes our need to clean and sterilise everything it actually doing more harm than good.

I think used in moderation dummies are a benefit and I wanted to get the positive view across so new/expectant mothers have both sides of the story and can decide themselves without being judged by some people.

What do you think?

Emma xxx 



  1. Great post. Both my boys had a dummy and they both naturally got rid of them about 18 months. I had lots of judgements about them having dummies but I just did what was right for us! Thanks for linking up with #justanotherlinky xx

  2. Thanks for commenting. I think people are far to judgemental & just wanted to get the other side across to help new mums decide.