Sunday, 20 March 2016

Don't feel guilty about bottle feeding

Jamie Oliver has opened an enormous can of worms.  I'm sure he is regretting his statement and may not have been aware of the consequences of stating breastfeeding is easy and convenient.

He has offended some, made others angry and probably left some mothers feeling utterly guilt ridden.

There are already reports stating breastfed babies have lower death rates, better immune systems and higher IQs to make us feel bad.  However you'll also find reports stating there is no truth in these claims and formula fed babies fair just as well. I think these reports are just wheeled out to make Mum's feel guilty. It's like saying if you don't breastfeed you don't love your child enough.

To be frank it's bloody ridiculous and needs to STOP.

It is nobodies business whether you choose to breastfeed or not.  Why do we feel the need to shame mothers or pressure them?

I read one blog post of a mum who tried breastfeeding for 3 days and gave up and has felt extreme guilt forever more. Her children look happy and healthy.  They are cared for and loved. Why should anyone feel  guilty? Why is it looked on as a dirty secret to use formula?

I formula feed both my children and they are fine.  My daughter is in the top sets in her class and both rarely have time of school ill. They thrived as babies and were healthy and happy.

I had a long and difficult labour with my daughter and doubt I'd have coped with breastfeeding. She was given a bottle whilst I was still in theatre. This however is not why I didn't breastfeed. I NEVER had any intention of breastfeeding. At home my steriliser, bottles and formula were bought and ready. I know it's natural but it most definitely did not float my boat.

Do I feel guilty? Hell no!
Are my children healthy and happy? Yes!

For the mothers that breastfeed well done and good on you. For the mothers that don't good on you too.

I hope all you mums with little ones don't have too many nightfeeds and your babies thrive.

Emma xxx


Friday, 18 March 2016

My top blogging/social media pet peeves

My top blogging/social media pet peeves

1. Being unable to find social media links. Love the post, like the person want to follow on instagram or Twitter can't find the links. Grr!

2. Pop ups and adverts. I know this generates money for some bloggers but I find it enormously irritating and sometimes just click off the post.

3. The use of the term little man. I don't know why this irritates me so much but it does. It has a similar feeling to nails on a blackboard. I know some people use it as they wish to keep the identity of their children private and I total respect this it's just the term little man! You don't really seem to see little lady/woman much. I'm also not keen on DD or DS and to start with had no idea what this secret code even meant!

4. I'm not a fan of the monochrome instagram accounts.  We are all different but this is not my taste. It must take ages to style and looks impressive but to me lacks any realism, warmth or humour. I recently saw an entirely black & white child's room & it actually made me feel sad. Of course this is just my view. There's room for us all in the instagram world.

5. People that use the word hate in their blog title & quickly retract it. Eg - I hate children's parties (bold title) Well I don't hate them but..... (in the first paragraph). The title is used to shock/entice and then I'm left disappointed by the watered down opinion.

6.  Facebook!!! This is the one social media outlet I long to expand but it feels impossible unless you are willing to pay regularly for the advertising. I love Facebook for my personal use but as a social media tool for Life in the Mum's Lane it's not really working. Although I dearly love my 84 likeys. Thank you. If anyone has any tips for Facebook growth I'd love to hear them.

What are your blogging/social media pet peeves?

Emma xxx


Friday, 11 March 2016

Baby Bore

Back when I was first pregnant blogging wasn't really a popular thing & Twitter was in its infancy.  However I've always loved writing and drafted mini posts as an outlet which never saw the light of day as I had no forum.  I've decided to dust some of them off and share.
These posts are from my early motherhood days and I hope they might help, humour or connect with some mums out there.

Baby Bore
originally wrote September 2007
When your new baby is born you are filled with feelings of love, worry and extreme tiredness.  You spend the first two weeks wrapped up in trying to look after your new bundle of joy the best you can and learning to recognise the hungry, tired, or poorly cries.  You are besieged by visitors all wishing you a long and happy life and then your partner returns to work, the visitors stop coming and you are left by yourself. 

You suddenly feel a little bit lonely and worried you are doing everything right.  People sympathise with these feelings but what people don’t discuss is that sometimes you can actually also feel rather bored.  Looking after a small baby can get quite monotonous the chores become the same, bath, change, feed, wind, make bottles, try and get your little one to sleep, fill the washing machine for the third time and finally wash and make some more bottles.

A lot of mothers say they love nothing more than watching their new baby but to be perfectly honest I don’t know how they find the time.  When my little one was sleeping I was either manically doing housework or trying to sleep myself.  I really did not have the inclination to watch my baby for hours on end and they really don’t do much in the first few weeks.  People seem to think you are less maternal or perhaps just slightly strange if you do not find every single thing your new baby does enormously interesting but sleeping, eating, burping and farting are not interesting after the 100th time.  Some babies do not do much and there’s nothing wrong with more mothers admitting that your new baby is the most gorgeous thing in the world but slightly dull.

I actually found the change from full time work with adults and adult conversation to full time mother with only a small baby to talk to quite strange and it took a little while to adjust.  It made me wonder if I’d made the right decision in extending my maternity leave to a whole year.  However when my daughter reached 4ish months she started to interact more and we started solid foods (I know the rules have changed but my health visitor said it would be fine as Lily was a big baby) she also started taking more interest in her toys and would actually stay on her play mat quite happily for half hour or more.  Everything seemed to slot into place and I realised how happy and lucky I was to have a year of work. 

My daughter is now nearly 8 months old and seems to be changing daily.  She babbles away and can sit up for 25 minutes before finally toppling over.  She’s also finally learnt to roll over something I thought she just would never do as she hated being on her tummy and she loves her food.  I can now say that motherhood is no longer boring but know that even if baby number 2 came along I would still find those first few months exhausting, full of visitors and love and then perhaps a tad boring.  I would just like to say its ok to feel like this and all mothers and babies are different and it doesn’t make you any worse than the mum round the corner who loves nothing more than watching her new born sleep, lie, eat and burp for the 100th time.


Tuesday, 8 March 2016

Why can I not lose weight? (humour)

Why can I not lose weight?
I've eaten salad and not eaten late.
Oh but what about the biscuit or two,
Oops and I drank a wine or few.

Why is losing weight so hard?
Perhaps I need a cupboard guard.
I love food. Chips, chinese and cake,
It doesn't help my daughter likes to bake.

Why can't I just wake up slim?
I don't want to spend hours in the gym.
I bought the book & fitness dvd,
But I haven't actually made the effort see.

I know what I need to do,
But it's so hard who knew!
I must try harder as my jeans are tight,
Lose a few lbs and all will be right.

Hopefully the spring sunnier days,
Will boost me into healthier ways.
Countdown to maxi dresses has begun,
So I better embrace the weightloss fun.